First round of my club championship today. GHIN says I’m a +1.7. Shot 86 after being +2 thru 11 and never been more ready to quit golf. Need to play in more tournaments, but can’t without neglecting my responsibilities to my girls. Which leaves me stuck in this pattern of playing decent sometimes but like a donkey in events I care about. Pissed…

Family life, going through it now and accepted it.

Chubbs01 the worst part about it is that you’re likely an excellent player as a club golfer but don’t play well in the events that people look up the scores on. Then they think you’re fudging it or not as good for some reason. You are though. You don’t have to play well in the other events to be “good.” Chin up

Welcome to the club, Chubbs, we hold secret meetings every Tuesday. But fo real…100% feel your pain. Life gets nuts like @ckay said. The “no kids” life was sure different 😂. I wish I would have practiced more 😂😂😂. My solution is, short game. If I can work on a ton of putting (house) and maybe 30min-1hr on wedges maybe 1-2 times a week, I’ll be ok, this is just a theory. But I do ramp up practice before qualifying, maybe two weeks out. So you don’t neglect your loved ones all season, it’s just for two weeks 😂😂. And by ramping up, I mean range/play 3 times a week 😂. I’ll be the first to admit, hands down, it’s tough to be on the course with my wife/daughter doing something else, the “man what the fuck am I doing? Out here playing solo, beautiful Saturday, and practicing….” Bottom line, my take, don’t be hard on yourself. Win that mental battle. I know it’s tough. Maybe you need to intentionally make sure the stand on you bag doesn’t work and unfortunately, your clubs fall over….oops…sorry guys I don’t know what happened…is everyone ok? Just my thoughts, but I’m a lunatic 🤷♂️

First off I have to commend you for two things. Keeping yourself in the round and still posting a score no matter how bad it was Publicly posting your score on a forum for all to see Golf is not an easy and tournament golf is a whole different animal. You definitely have the game but you just need more tournaments reps so you don’t make the mistakes you did before. You need to feel the nerves and how it will effect your swing. Those easy 3-4 footers aren’t easy anymore when everything counts. Don’t let the round discourage you and use it for motivation to get better.

dphatt Those easy 3-4 footers aren’t easy anymore when everything counts. This shit right here!!!! Regular round 4 footer - “I’ll just bang this it real quick, par, next” Tournament 4 footer - “Why is there 8ft of break? Which way is the wind blowing?” 😂

86-81; same pattern as yesterday where 12 holes in I started hitting some massive double crosses. Good thing I don’t keep High Noon’s in the house…lol. dphatt you’re correct that more tournament reps are the remedy, but not sure I can make that happen without compromising as a husband and dad and that’s not in play.

Chubbs01 Naturally, I'll defer to @dphatt on the deep tournament play knowledge. You're focused on the right things (family), so your game isn't going to be as sharp as you hope to be. Give yourself some grace to make mistakes and miss shots. Here's what I'd offer as a middling mid-am who plays a couple of tournaments a year: You don't have to read them but Golf Is Not A Game Of Perfect and Zen Golf are quick and good books about getting in a healthy mind-state for golf When you run into a dreaded double-cross, do what works for tennis players: What that means is if you double-fault, the next serve needs to be the smooth one that you just put into play. Just get the point started, take what comes, and then try for the big first serve after you're back in the game Keep putting yourself out there. People who tee it up in tournaments are the man in the arena

Confessions of a Wretched Tournament Golfer

Noyes26

Here’s a good stretch of golf in a 2-ball I played in today. Hooray.

PaulAllenPA

Weve all been their guys. I found that money games certainly helps with pressure control. I dont play big bucks but 20 to 100 certainly makes it stings and will keep you focused the entire round. Keep after it

Chubbs01

A happy update to this: decided to play in the 15 hdcp and under Calcutta my club’s MGA puts on about 3 times per year. Much more money involved in this than I’ve ever played for. Day 1 today was 45* and some wind but I brought in a 69 which was the low individual round by 4. Didn’t get much help from my partner, but we’re right in the scrap to cash.

if you haven’t read it, highly recommend Break Free from Suckville by Dr. Bhrett McCabe.

Chubbs01

Warming up for the second round, my back goes out and I WD after trying to play the first hole.

So bloody typical…

OffTheDole

Chubbs01 Damn. That sucks.

I recommend getting with a good physical therapist if you haven't already.

Putterho

Chubbs01 Bummer Chubbs. Major bummer my friend.

Chubbs01

OffTheDole that’s what I’ve done when this has happened previously, and always resolved well. Cheers

Putterho

Have you ever seen this magical stuff for your back?

Chubbs01

Putterho I have not, but am highly intrigued. If it will keep me from waddling around the office like a man twice my age, I’m all in. Lol

OffTheDole

Putterho Just ordered some. Thanks for the recommendation!

Eddie

Putterho

Is that for animals? The veterinary word throws me.

PaulAllenPA

Putterho You should try DMSO as well. Been using the stuff for 40+ years and works wonders @Chubbs01 you need to get on a solid fitness rotine. how much do you weigh? carrying extra lbs in the midsection is not gonna help the back Have you heard of TPI? find a good instructor and stick to it

Moni_SLO

Eddie probably but just like horse tranqs.....probably works 100x better on humans than the OTC shit like Bengay!

Putterho

Moni_SLO and 1/5 of the price!!!!

Chubbs01

I do Fit for Golf stuff from Mike Carroll.

Skip1234

@Chubbs01 how do you like the program? Was looking into it myself.

Chubbs01

Exceptional; ringing endorsement.

To be clear, my back issue is not that program’s fault…lol.

Cdnrockies

Fun thread. 👍🏼

I hadn't played true tournament golf in close to 15 years. Had more time to play last summer so thought I'd go play with the boys.

Entered our Men's Open. I think I was an 8 at the time. Shot 87 the first day...and LOVED it. Greens were almost twice as fast as I am used to playing. I think I missed at least 6 putts from 3 feet or less...lol. Second day didn't go a whole lot better as it was more of the same and I shot 86...but still had a ton of fun. Definitely got the competitive juices flowing again.

Fast forward a month. Still the same handicap but on a positive trajectory. I had gone thru a swing change a couple months prior that was paying dividends...but it wasn't until someone noticed an issue with my putting grip that things really heated up.

Played our Club Championship off the same number. First day, shot 80...with 4 missed putts inside of 3 feet...including an 8 incher that i swiped at. Oops...lol.

Started Day 2, 3 back in my flight. Shot 77 with very little drama. Ended up winning my flight and finishing 1st Overall Low Net.

Bottom line for me was...have FUN...k.i.s.s....and let the competitive juices flow. There are a lot worse things you could be doing than swinging a golf club in a tourney.😉